Monday, November 24, 2014

Get Rejected


Get Rejected
 

Rejection is not easy. It’s scary, it’s frustrating, it’s embarrassing and is even a blow to our self-confidence at times. But rejection is actually a good thing. Rejection is great for two reasons. First, rejection demonstrates that you are willing to put yourself out there. You are willing to take leaps and take up opportunities. It is in these risks, leaps and opportunities that potential life fulfillment lies. If you have never been rejected before, or find that you have only been rejected a few times, it doesn’t mean that you are “that good” it means that you are not taking up as many opportunities as you potentially could.  

Now, the goal here is of course to not be rejected and have a life of success, but the reality is we all get rejected. And, if you have received a few “no’s” here and there, it should not be viewed as something that hinders you from trying again or that increases your fear about rejection. Rather let the rejection be seen and viewed by everyone, including yourself, as an attempt at taking a risk to grow your life. Then, see the rejection as a barrier, not a dead end.
 

Second, rejection teaches resilience. Resilience is something that you are going to need when you do land a major opportunity. By being rejected and then bouncing back through analyzing ways to seek out a “yes”, you are creating a strong foundation for what you are going to need when a rejection turns into a success. If we get rejected and then use negative self-talk and work effortlessly to decrease our confidence and increase our fears, we will soon find a lack of fulfillment in life. We will also discover a loss of self-control. We turn over our control to fear when we take no from someone or something as our final and permanent answer. Instead, when we see a rejection as a hurdle and find solutions to jump the hurdle, we are increasing our confidence, critical thinking skills, and abilities which in turn will land us a success in the near future.

This week your goal is to take one leap, small or big that you have wanted to take for some time. Let it be a leap that you not only have thought about but have calculated the risk to and that the primary factor that is holding you back is that you could be rejected.
 
 

 Dr. Jaime Kulaga is a Certified Life Coach, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Motivational Speaker. She is the author of the upcoming book "The SuperWoman's Guide to Super Fulfillment: Step-by-Step Strategies to Create Work-Life Balance," to be published in March 2015. She is the inspirational founder of the nationally known SuperWoman Workshops. Dr. Kulaga has been featured internationally for her expertise in Work-Life Balance. http://www.mindfulrehab.com

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