During the holiday season we often forget about the top one or two people we care about most. Yeah, sure, you buy them a couple gifts, but that is not what I am talking about when I say that you “forget” these specific people.

This season be sure that you enjoy the holiday, too. Remember who your top five life roles consist of, and don’t go overboard serving all the people outside of those roles. Typically, as you stress about serving others for the holidays, you complain to the ones you actually care most about. The people you most love often suffer the wrath. They hear you complaining and listen to your tears of being overwhelmed during the holiday season. Sure these people should listen to you cry when the boss is beating you up or you have just downright had a bad day, but the beauty of the holiday season should not be something to cry over, unless it is tears of joy.

During the holiday season a lot of women spend all their time prepping, stressing, cooking, serving and cleaning up, that not only did they miss the moment of the holiday season, but they are glad it is over. This holiday season, I challenge you to set boundaries and limit yourself to what you can handle emotionally. If you have already made plans for the holidays, what can you delegate out? Maybe get those you love involved more this year- almost to create a stronger bond with those you care most about, plus taking stress off you. Forget perfectionism this year and focus on what the holiday actually means.

Plus, if you had actually maintained boundaries all year long with family and friends, now is not the time to blur those boundaries. You do not want your joy of pleasing others to become something that people now expect all the time from you.

 

Kindness ≠ Doormat.