PICK YOUR BATTLES
Do you ever find yourself trying to prove to someone that
you are right? Isn’t it exhausting? It is more draining than either admitting
that you were wrong, or, letting it go and letting them figure it out for
themselves that in fact, you were right.
When you try to prove something again and again, it actually
takes you off the path of your goal. This is because all the extra energy and
time it takes to prove something, you are channeling toward another person and
not your goal.
Example: If you and a spouse are trying to complete a task
and you think it should be done one way and him/her the other, you don’t have
to prove why your stance is better for hours on end. If the other person isn’t
going to let up, then give up. Save the time. Let them do something their way,
and if it works, well, it’s done. If it doesn’t, without saying a word, and
without expending energy, you proved you were right. They know it. Pick your battles. We often fight so many
little unnecessary battles, that when we need to go up for a war we are either unprepared,
or when it is time to enjoy something, we have expended so much energy we don’t
enjoy it.
The more battles you choose to fight, you are actually only
hurting yourself. If you pick a battle at work, then pick a battle at home, you
have picked two battles to fight for the day. Were they both worth it? You were
involved in both battles, are you sure you want to be a part of both? You risk
being so bashed up physically and mentally by Friday, that you might ruin your
own weekend.
The more battles we pick, the more poor choices we make. How
many times have you let a spouse, co-worker or toxic person drive you so insane
that you couldn’t even hit the gym? Work productively? Eat? Or when you did
eat, you were so starving you ate whatever was in sight. These are not good
practices to get in the habit of.
Picking battles, even if you think you win, you actually
lose. Stop feeling like you have to prove yourself to people. Whether you are
trying to prove something little or something big, just stop. If you are trying
to get promoted, yes, I get it, you have to prove yourself. But, you also don’t
have to shove things down people’s throats or complain to get it. Same goes for
small things at home with the partner, kids or friends. Make an effort to not
hurt others by trying to prove a point and in return you will find that you are
less stressed and have more energy.
This week’s challenge: Walk away from all battles, big or small. Can you do it?
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