Perfect is so UN-Perfect
The beauty of perfection. It’s a lovely thing. Perfect body, perfect family, perfect job, perfect mate…perfect DREAM! Wake up!
You know why they say be nice to everyone you meet, that is because everyone is fighting their own battle that you do not know about, because no one is perfect. Because perfection does not exist, this is why it important to not compare yourself to others as you work toward creating and managing your own life.
As you set goals to make it through the day, week, month or 2014, set goals based on the reality of your own life, not the assumed reality of another’s. If you are mother, wife and career woman working toward going back to school for an MBA, do not base the journey and time frame it takes to complete your MBA on someone who has no job and no children. The more realistic you are in setting goals and managing your life, the more self-actualized you will become.
Since being perfect is only in our dreams, what is the next best thing? Self-Actualization. The concept of Self- Actualization stems from a theory created by Abraham Maslow. Maslow created a hierarchy of needs that people work to fulfill: Biological and physiological needs, safety needs, love needs, esteem needs and self-actualization. Many of us are trying to become better all the time. And, although we can always be better, you can reach self-fulfillment as you become more self-aware and understanding of your potential and what you can(t) control.
Since 2014 is here, I challenge you to take a moment and step back to look at the various aspects of your life. Perfectionists get beat up and wore down. They not only feel that they have to focus on their regular routine of being perfect, but the added weight of hiding what they might be failing at disrupts any inner peace that was holding them on by a string. This loss of peace causes anxiety and a sense of being overwhelmed.
Being perfect is subjective, what I think is perfect is, is not what you think is perfect. Thus, no matter how hard you try to be perfect, you are spinning your wheels and will never “catch a break.” Continue to work toward self-actualization, and as you are doing so, do not be afraid to delegate responsibilities out in 2014. Often we take on many life roles and even take over other people’s responsibilities because, “if we do it ourselves then it will get done ‘the right way’.” Striving for perfectionism and taking on extra, unnecessary roles, wears down our bodies physically and psychologically, creating a more “un-perfect” person.
Once you accept that perfection exists but only in our dreams and that working toward self-actualization exists in reality, you will find a life of fulfillment and “perfection.”