Why your Limitations Really Hold you Back
Sometimes, as life passes us by, we reflect on where we are and think about how we wish things were different. It is not only life that we wish was different, but our self too. Maybe there are certain physical or mental aspects about you that hold you back. Some people have lost limbs (physical) where others battle Bi-Polar disorder, low self-esteem, or ADHD (mental).
But dwelling on all your limitations will prove to the world and yourself, that they are in fact limitations. You will quickly find yourself in a very negative cycle. In fact, this negative cycle of thought not only reduces your self-confidence, but also the confidence that other people have in you. Take a moment to think about being in a job interview. Would you sit there and spend your 45 minutes of interview time letting the interviewer know all of your limitations? Why not? Answer this yourself. If your answer was something along the lines of “because they wouldn’t give me the job,” then you get why you can’t focus on your limitations when going about your day to day life. Forty five minutes of dwelling on your limitations could really hinder you from having the life you wished for.
On another note, some people dwell on their limitations and share them with the world because they don’t want others to hold them so accountable or don’t want others to expect too much from them in case they can’t come through. This lack of confidence is hindering a life of happiness. Instead of people expecting a lot from them, people pity them. And, while being pitied here and there might feel good, being pitied all the time just confirms to our mind that even others agree that our limitations hold us back.
As we focus on what we don’t have the ability to do we unconsciously create a self-fulfilling prophecy regarding how our limitations deter us from moving forward. And, consequently we don’t live the life we wish we had. The reality is, there are millions of people with mental and physical illnesses or pains living every day as if it were their dream. They are achieving goals and climbing mountains. Instead of dwelling on your limitations, you must accept them and create a “work around.” Just as you find ways to work around other barriers that rise up in life, you must create one for what you perceive are your limitations, too.
This week’s goal: Begin switching focus on what you do have to work with in life as opposed to what you don’t have and begin your “work around” for your limitation in order to live the life you wish for.
Dr. Jaime Kulaga is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Motivational Speaker. She is the author of "The SuperWoman's Guide to Super Fulfillment: Step-by-Step Strategies to Create Work-Life Balance." She is the inspirational founder of the nationally known SuperWoman Workshops. Dr. Kulaga has been featured internationally for her expertise in Work-Life Balance. http://www.mindfulrehab.com